If we’re supposed to take our kids to big church and have them experience the same sermon adults experience, how come none of the disciples were little kids? How come we never heard about Timmy, the 4-year old disciple who used to get all grouchy when he hadn’t had a nap in a while and got sick of eating fish and loaves? Timmy wanted some chicken fingers!
You can read the whole article here: Babies Crying During the Sermon. Don't forget to read the many comments left, too. That's where it'll really get ya!
Children Can't Understand
...the point of children's programs isn't to get them out of mom and dad's hair, but to provide them an opportunity to hear the message of God on a level they understand. -A Commenter
Maybe not in every church body, but I'm sure there are some parents out there who look forward to being able
"Well, I Don't Like It."
I, for one, find it totally distracting to have a family with 3-4 kids crawling around, squacking, crying, etc. We went to a small church with a nursery, but one family did not take their kids down. They had kids every year (it seemed!), and sat near the front. My personality cannot handle such distractions, and I never got much out of the service as I watched this circus every week. Now, they are raising their 3 grand kids, and same circus. We now go elsewhere, but when we visit, I'm right back to distraction. I love this family too, don't get me wrong. Not judging, just saying that some personalities can block all this out, some can't. I for one would be embarrassed to have my kids causing someone to miss out on the message... -A Commenter
Not only would this make a family that chooses to keep their children with them during church feel awful, it also shows a lack of grace on the authors part. "Church" isn't for us. When we get together with other believers, it should be to help edify and encourage them, and in turn, we get edified and encouraged.
This whole thing is like an ice burg. Children in church is just the very tip. When we start looking a little further, we will find out that we're dealing with (what we deem) a "problem" when really, our whole "church" structure is the issue. WE are the Church. Church isn't a place you go to and listen to a pastor preach a sermon, although, this is what it has become today. And this is where the root of our problem is.
It's All About ME
I love kids to death. But church time is my time to get away from the kids and peruse my relationship with God. I don't know why people would choose to have them in the large sanctuary over children's church, or whatever it's called in other churches. They learn age specific things about God and it's good for them. -A Commenter
It's all backwards.
We should be getting together with fellow believers to have good wholesome conversation that edifies one
- Children take in a lot more than adults give them credit for
- Parents are supposed to be the ones teaching their children
- Anything that the children don't understand from the "big people lesson" can be used as a springboard for conversation at home
- "Church" is not done the way it was intended to be done
- People are the church. Not a building
- People need to be less "me-centered" and more "us-centered"
- Our culture needs to revamp their view of children. Since when is a child making noise a bad thing?
Family doesn't need to be separated pretty much ever, and especially not when it comes to learning about God.
To The Folks Who Keep Their Kiddos With ThemFirst, I think that it is wonderful that you keep your kids with you during church. Even when it gets discouraging because of looks or comments from others, keep it up. Keep doing what the Lord has called your family to do, and don't let it get you down when others don't agree. Raising your children for the Lord is one of the highest callings, and one of the things we should treasure most and strive to do our best at. When times get discouraging, remember that your children are a blessing to you, and that God has trusted you to raise them for his glory. When they make noise, rejoice in the fact that they are alive and well, and that one day, and perhaps even now, they are using that voice to echo the amazing love of the Savior.
We meet in a home. The children are taught on their own level at home by their parents (a biblical mandate), and on Sunday they are a part of what the adults do. Why? Because children need to learn sit and listen, and much like children benefit from being read to on a higher grade level, they benefit from hearing adult conversation at an early age. Furthermore, when the entire family is broken up during the service, each age level is on a completely different page from each other, and has no way of really digging deep together outside of the building. We live in a massively age/generation segregated society, and I think it is unscriptural. As far as it being a distraction to other adults, I really think we need to step back and see that taking care of our kids is just part of real life, and we shouldn't keep the children back, like the disciples did from Jesus, because they are learning not to make too much noise. -John at Restoration Homestead
A Little BackgroundConsider the way Jesus talked to children. He said "let the little children come unto me," so clearly there were children present listening to his teaching. Families learned and traveled together. And take a look at the early church for another example. When we look at the Bible, we can't find mention of any sort of segregated children's ministry. It was a household affair. (See Acts 16:33-34 and 18:8)
To Sum It All UpI believe "church" should be a family affair. It is the parent's responsibility to raise and teach their own children - not a Sunday school teachers. Fellowship should be a time of just that: fellowship. Think how much richer fellowship will be if you have a range of ages instead of sending each age group off to their own separate room! Everyone will have a better opportunity for growth when they are allowed to learn from those older (and younger) than them. And besides...
It's the way God intended it to be.